DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been married for a long time but have not been sexually active in years. My husband begged me to be intimate again. The last time we tried it was unsuccessful.
As a postmenopausal woman, my body does not function as before. I visited my gynecologist, who suggested I take estrogen to make things work again there, but I’m scared. I’ve heard that estrogen causes cancer.
I want to please my husband, but I don’t want to die. What should I do?
Rekindle my flame
DEAR RELUME MY FLAME: Talk to your doctor about the pros and cons of estrogen therapy. My research indicates that locally placed estrogen is much safer than pills that release estrogen into your body.
Also discuss other options with your doctor. Over the counter lubricants work for some women. Talk to your pharmacist about available products that you can try. This, by the way, can include vibrators that can help you grow.
You may also want to consider participating in couple sex sessions with your husband. Rekindling that flame is more than mechanical. Rekindling romance may be the secret ingredient.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend is cheating on her husband and continues to drag me into his lies. We work together and I have to replace her during work and on weekends. She will go to lunch with this man, and if her husband calls or stops, I must hasten to find a lie as to why she is not in the break room. she will tell him
she went out with me, and if he can’t reach her then he calls me and I have to explain to him why she can’t answer his phone or come on the phone when he calls.
I want to be there for her and support her, but I can’t take the pressure because I don’t want to be caught in a lie and then make her angry with me because I can’t keep up. It’s got out of hand and I don’t know what else to do to stay out of it. I need some suggestions.
Best liar friends
DEAR BEST LIAR FRIENDS: Pump the brakes! Take your best friend aside and tell her her time is up. You can no longer participate in his lie. You love it, but you have had enough. Tell her that because you love her, you recognize that she needs to pull herself together. Right now, she’s out of control and reckless.
Describe to him what you just wrote to me. It sounds crazy and is doomed to disaster. Plus, you don’t want to participate in a lie. Suggest that she mind her own business. It’s time for her to choose which man she wants to be with. Even if she isn’t ready to make that choice, make it clear to her that you can’t lie for her anymore.
Harriette Cole is a life stylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send your questions to [email protected] or c / o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.